I was so privileged to see the movie The Shawshank Redemption for first time last night that touched me in so many ways. Not surprisingly maybe, where most movies tend to move me in some way, but this one really did and made me think a lot. Especially about fear. And peoples’ role in the society. But mostly fear.
Napoleon Hill states in his book Think and Grow Rich (as well as in The Law of Success) that there are 6 basic fears: of poverty, criticism, ill health, loss of love, old age and death.
When I read The Law of Success I thought about those fears and got to the conclusion that I don’t fear those things. Why?
Well, as I see it for me then:
- Poverty is position according to an effort you are willing to put into your life = controllable.
- To fear criticism is for those who are not independent enough or don’t follow their heart. If you always follow your heart and do what you really want, there is no need to fear others opinions.
- Ill health may be predicted and there is no need to fear it if one lives healthy life. If there will be an accident, or you get unlucky in some way, then it will only be that time’s problem and no need to worry about that in advance.
- About loss of love I can only say one thing: Don’t cry because it is over. Smile because it happened.
- Why to fear old age if you really live the life to the fullest, and you enjoy and experience every period of life as it is?
- And death. Probably what most people fear because no-one knows death or what it is like to be dead. But in the end, everyone dies and that’s how it is. But if you really are living the life you may die happy, and if so then there is, for my opinion, no reason to fear it. Or like Mark Twain said: The fear of death follows from the fear of life. A man who lives fully is prepared to die at any time.
I realize though that I might see it this way now where I know that no-one is depending on me. If I had family and children, I might think differently. But still I think fear is all about how we approach it. As long as we understand our fear, and face it, we can overcome it. And then we get this invincible feeling, the feeling of total freedom.
Eleanor Roosevelt, the same woman as is the author of one of my favourite quotes: The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams, said also I believe that anyone can conquer fear by doing the things he fears to do, provided he keeps doing them until he gets a record of successful experience behind him.
She was a wise women.
But even though I don’t fear those 6 basic fears I’m afraid of other things. And those things I am trying to understand now and face. And by that said, even learn how to embrace vulnerability and stop try to control and predict all the time.
Not easy, but what would be fun about it if it were?